Life is full of many ups and downs, moments of inconceivable joy, tremendous suffering, utter boredom, yet in the end it is all part of a beautiful ride. Most of us have a conscious mind, but what we do not realize is, its one of our greatest enemies. Because the way in which our minds work, we perceive the world in a way that keeps us from actually experiencing it in it’s totality. It works through memory, from logic, and even if we are crazy, the way in which we think may still seem logical to us. Dropping any expectations and going with the flow should allow us to be in harmony with existence, even if it seems irrational and wierd. Life unfolds in miraculous ways the moment you embrace it, you expect the unexpected unexpectedly. I feel with each day its an opportunity to learn something new.
Being in love is one thing . . Being happy in love is another thing . . It is easy to be in love . . Everything seems beautiful and full of happiness . . Every fault seems too small and easily forgiven . But sometimes we tend to screw up, and thats because you expect. The more you expect, the more you feel disappointed and the more you feel disappointed the more things go awry. Having great expectations sounds great but when the expectations are not fulfilled , we become disappointed .
That is the problem ! Disappointments will suck out the happiness. No expectations , fewer disappointments ! It's that simple. Not easy but simple . Try it :) You can't change others , so why do you want to change, its not change that fuels the desire to understand each other or to be in perfect harmony in love, but its the feeling of mutuality and understanding and trying to be the way you are. Just dont take things seriously. Take it easy. Try to understand the other better . Talk more often.
If you are afraid of something, speak it out loud. The more you run away from your fears, the more you will be hounded by it. Instead, if you trust then let go. There will be a hand to hold you if you fall, a shoulder for you to rest if you are tired and a shadow to follow if you are lonely. Thats the blissfulness to what you feel when you do not expect. If you want something , ASK ! Nobody can read your mind.
Your incharge of your own life. You want a happy life , work for it. You want a happy love , work for it too. When you are in harmony, you are able to let go of your expectations of how life should be, and be fully available to what life actually is. See where life takes you, enjoy the ride.
Sure it makes logical sense to make definite and specific plans and to achieve those plans, but for me life has always been more fulfilling when it is approached with no previous expectations. Just having a curious attitude, like that of a child filled with eyes of wonder, wanting to explore a world that is unknown to him.
You live life instead of thinking about how to live. Just like the tag line from Leo Babauta’s blog…smile, breath, and go slowly…that pretty much sums it up.
